life is hard. then it gets easy. and then it gets harder.

this was an awesome quote from my friends Julia and Phil when I was trying to tell Aylen how life can be hard.  Eek.  I'm afraid that is my answer to him and Ryker when they are struggling--I think I might be substituting this phrase instead of "life isn't fair".  Oh dear.  I am a parent.

Anyways...without telling my whole life story--I suppose that should be told only in my personal diary.  But life has been a bit hard lately.  I guess it's times like this where you really find out what you are made of, who your friends are, and how important working hard towards what you want is.  This is when growth truly happens.  I think of it maybe like lifting weights (which I desperately want to do..mind you).  You have to push yourself, and then you're in a bit of pain if you pushed yourself right, and then afterwards you are left with these awesomely toned muscles that were created due to your hard work.  That is life, that is relationships, that is parenthood. 

I feel like it is important to talk the truth about various life events with the hope that maybe it starts to reduce the stigma or maybe makes it a little easier for someone else to know that they aren't crazy or weird for going through what they are going through.  For example, I never hid that I had a miscarriage because I felt like I had a couple close people in my life that were brave enough to share their story of miscarriage before I had mine.  It made A HUGE difference, because when it happened to me I didn't think i was the only one.  So anyways...I feel like I'm a bit all over, but all this relates to it's been hard lately.

Having a baby is rough stuff.  Pregnancy is amazing but there are tough things that one goes through.  You lose your body, you lose the ability to practice many of your coping skills for better or worse (working out hard, drinks, etc), you have emotions up the wazoo!  Then the baby comes and I have this book that best describes what it does to a relationship..."having a baby is like dropping a bomb into the relationship."  Now this is partly true and partly not.  For me having babies was this magical experience that physically demonstrated the love that Russ and I have for each other.  But it also got hard too.  You don't have sleep, you're life pace changes dramatically, and emotions are crazy once again.  Anyways-I feel like it is good to spread the word that having babies also can create different dynamics within a relationship, highlight areas that need strength and all of THIS is NORMAL.  It's the growth part, and it may be a bit painful...but if you can push through it and not give up good things can happen.

Also, crying can happen in large amounts after a baby.  It's true.  Recipe to help this =SLEEP and getting out of the house.  True story all of it.

Anyways, life is good.  but life is hard too, then it gets easy, and then it gets harder.  and darn aren't they worth it!!!


Love,
Momma